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2012年6月15日星期五

究竟大學生研經宣教會真正的名稱是什麼? (16 Jun 2012)


bosophie 寫到:
看完littlesheep你QUOTE的電郵投訴信,我才知道這個網帖裏你真的用了很多不同的名字,原來都是同一個人,之前都不知道添!...也知道你在這裏用不同身份寫野寫到真係...


Graceleung 寫到:
請不要再回應了,以「不同的身份」在網上回應的,包括:littlesheep、Amy、tkllll、Christian57、Jery…… (或更多),我們也曉得是「同一個人」


eloihk 寫到:
何況「化身」如此之多


互聯網是個自由討論的世界, 當中有來各界不同的人參與, 有許多在這討論區參與討論的人, 事實上我也不知道是誰。

雖然 bosophie 不認同“很多不同的名字,原來都是同一個人”的做法,但偏偏大學生研經宣教會(UBF- Hong Kong) 卻不理會 bosophie 及一些同工們的立場,堅持在網上不同的平台上用了很多不同的名字,但卻是同一個組織(或人) [詳見下],這樣的行為其實莫視一些在UBF裏較不喜歡不誠實的同工們的立場(e.g. bosophie, Graceleung, eloihk, etc. ),令不贊成用很多教會名字的弟兄姊妹,也迫不得意地參與教會不太誠實的做法,大學生研經宣教會在網上不同平台之名稱如下:

一,公司註冊處註冊之名稱(英文):UNIVERSITY BIBLE FELLOWSHIP (HONG KONG CENTRE) LIMITED
二,公司註冊處註冊之名稱(中文):大學生研經宣教會(香港中心)有限公司
三,主日信息 (英文):Hong Kong Centre
四,主日信息 (中文):香港中心
五,香港網站(英文):University Bible Fellowship - Hong Kong
六,香港網站(中文):大學生研經宣教會 - 香港
七,FB名稱(帳號一): 大學生研經宣教會(香港) (UBF - Hong Kong)
八,FB名稱(帳號二): Hongkong Ubf
九,FB名稱(帳號三): 大學生研經宣教會 (香港中心) UBF (Hong Kong Centre)
十,FB名稱(帳號四): 大學生研經宣教會 (UBF)  (~18/6/2012 新增) 
十一,Youtube帳號名稱: hkubf 
十二,Twitter: 大學生研經宣教會@hkubf 
十三,Yahoo blog: 大學生研經宣教會(UBF) 
十四,英文:University Bible Fellowship (UBF) 


難怪連韓國宣教士 C.S. 也感到混亂而在 FB 裏問道:Which is the official facebook page? (UBF - Hong Kong) or Hongkong Ubf ?


(註:自從此帖子張貼後,C.S.宣教士的以上留言,已被UBF負責網頁的弟兄 delete 了,此造法有消滅證據之嫌,與李注洋的屍體被匆匆火化,有何相似之處呢?)

事實上,一般正統教會只有一個官方網頁和一個名稱,是沒有那麼多不同的名稱。那麼,為何堂堂一個註冊慈善機構要用那麼多的名稱呢?

有專研濫權教會(Abusive Church)的學者Dr. Ronald Enroth在《Churches That Abuses》一書中指出,異端傾向經常更換名字,尤其當它們的名字被媒體曝光了(these churches tend to change their names often, especially once they are exposed by the media)
(source:http://www.probe.org/site/c.fdKEIMNsEoG/b.4227407/k.9467/Abusive_Churches.htm)

問題:
Q1.
對於那些迫不得意地參與教會不太誠實的做法的UBF弟兄姊妹,個人深表同情你們,希望你們也認真思想:是否繼續留在一所有許多名稱的教會內服侍?

Q2.
你們又怎樣向羔羊交代UBF有許多名稱的原因呢?

Q3. UBF
牧者們會否覺得別人有多個名稱就是不對,並要拒絕對話,但自己教會UBF有許多名稱就無問題呢?

Q4. UBF
會否認為只要是為了福音工作,就不太誠實也沒有所謂呢?(耶青和統一教認為為了福音工作,說謊是沒有問題的)


2011年11月20日星期日

English (7 Dec 2011)



UBF CUHK missionary Kim XX confessed the sin “Lust of the eyes” publicly for about ten years (31 Jul 2012)


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As an ancestor of faith, dose he has “shoulder”? As missionaries, do they have “Pelvic Bone”? (26 May 2012)


Recently, I received the following email and watched the video clips. I found them very enlightening which taught me a good lesson of “Liberal Studies”. I hope to share with you:


As follows (modified slightly):

As an ancestor of faith, dose he has “shoulder”? As missionaries, do they have “Pelvic Bone”?



There are many teacher shepherds in UBF. Some of them are Liberal Studies teacher. Let's take a look at the video below, and have a L.S. lesson.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rCXeTCUQWh8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGitYYbLfSg&feature=related


Questions and Reflections:
1. Did the shepherds (especially ancestor of faith shep. Tang) confuse the public
?
2. In the KimChi Seminar
,did the missionaries and ancestor of faith undertake the consequence by themselves?
3. As an ancestor of faith, dose he has “shoulder”? As missionaries, do they have “Pelvic Bone”?
4. Who has  single-handedly caused the false and misleading speech?

5. Why was there a Kim family's earthquake after the KimChi seminar?
6. Did the missionaries pass the buck? Did the shepherds need to take the rap?
7. Did the missionaries use the local shepherds to become their shields?



Source: http://www.armbell.com/liberalhk/viewtopic.php?t=4894&start=105&mforum=liberalhk

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KimChi Talk’s False Speech by UBF shepherds (21 May 2012)



brother_2008 wrote:
” I am a former UBF brother who left UBF a few years ago. When I left, my feelings was almost the same as that of the previous shepherd’s leaving testimony a few months ago. The difference is that at that moment, I was like being isolated and failed to find the right person to share with.”



In fact, all exodus of former UBF – Hong Kong members would probably experience this sort of mental experience. From “suspecting” to “struggling”, from “being brainwashed” until “coming back to senses”, then he would experience some incidents to trigger him off. At last, he made decision to leave. Although this process will experience the painful feeling of discredited, isolation, or even be demoted. However, when he leaves UBF, he would have freedom in Christ and could drink the pure spiritual milk, so he will recover very soon and live a new life filling with freedom and joy.


It is said that the incident triggered one fellowship to leave UBF is in the Q&A session of the CUHK’s KimChi Talk. During the Q&A session, several UBF core shepherds were suspected of telling lies, untrue and misleading words publicly. Their behaviors caused some sheep to question about the integrity of the shepherds. They began to believe that UBF is an abusive church and made a decision to leave.


The following are several important cases in CUHK’s KimChi Talk on 11th April, 2012:


Case 1 (UBF-Hong Kong’s messenger Shep Tang XX claimed: I am just an ordinary shepherd, I hope that I could promote to a senior shepherd in the future)


During the Q&A session of CUHK’s KimChi Talk, one director class shepherd stood up. Dr. Cheung Teng asked him to introduce which shepherd’s class he belongs to. He kept on smiling and denied that he is a senior shepherd. He claimed that he is just an ordinary shepherd. And he even said that he hopes to promote to a senior shepherd in the future. However, what is the actual position and the real identity of this shepherd? The following content is quoted from UBF’s official web site:


“Shepherd Hayes Tang reported on Hong Kong Mission, and shared his life testimony. He became a born again Christian through one to one Bible study during his school days, and then he became an ancestor of faith in Hong Kong UBF …”
(source: http://www.ubf.org/content/america-visit-report-moody-park) 


According to UBF’s official web site, Hayes Tang is the ancestor of faith in Hong Kong UBF (also called “ancestor of faith – Abraham”). In UBF, every University has only one ancestor of faith. The statues of the ancestor of faith in UBF is very high and is highly-honored by missionaries. Shep. Hayes Tang is not only the ancestor of faith of one university, he is even the ancestor of faith in Hong Kong UBF which is a chapter combined by few universities. However, he claimed himself to be an ordinary shepherd. Obviously, he is suspected of telling lies publicly. Furthermore, he also said that he would like to promote to a senior shepherd. Does he think that being the ancestor of faith in Hong Kong UBF is not enough? Does he even have a greater ambition to pursue further promotion?


Summary of case 1:  As the ancestor of faith of Hong Kong UBF, he was actually giving false speech, leading to the questioning about his integrity. As a faith ancestor and messenger of UBF, he did not set a good example of speaking honestly. Will he bring bad influence of releasing false speech publicly to UBF’s shepherds, brothers and sisters?


Case 2 (Shep. “Wanna Buy House”, sheep of Shep. Tang XX, claimed,  “I have freedom to travel and my life in UBF-Hong Kong is very free. If being Shepherds are so busy, I think I have already left UBF.”

(Remarks: Shepherd “Wanna Buy House” once wanted to buy a house but his ideas was rejected and judged by missionary.)


During the KimChi Talk, Shep. “Wanna Buy House” claimed that his life was very free in UBF. He could even go traveling and buy T-shirt, etc. However, his statement was misleading. Since according to the message of Shep. TangXX, “Traveling” is worldly (or an example of the easy-going life). Let’s see below the UBF-HK’s faith ancestor TangXX’s teaching (Message of Chapter III in UBF-HK). In his message, he pointed out “traveling” is a “wide gate”, that leads to destruction:


"But for the wide doors, it is no need to invite others or to send invitation card. Everyday there are people forming teams to enter. They might form teams like “Tour group”, “Food group”, “Shopping group”… to rush into the wide gate. Therefore, although behind the wide gate are “Comfort Station”, “Pleasure Station”, “Vanity station”, ”Crime Station”, but …the terminus is “Perish”…So what is the actual difference between “narrow gate” and “wide gate”? “Wide gate” means “having a free (easy-going) life”. People do not need hard-working or struggling spiritually but they can still enter the wide gate. Behind the wide gate, people can enjoy comfort and lust. Therefore, choosing “wide gate” is a natural practice. On the way of wide road, people can meet many friends and they would not feel lonely.” (source: message of Chapter III, 21/9/2008, Mat 7:13-29)

Indeed, Shep. “Wanna Buy House” shared sogam in the message of 2011 HK SBC. He mentioned that his coworker cannot pass the “language benchmark test” for three years, so she was requested to repent.


“…but I work with computer everyday, so I don’t know how to love the others. Last year, my coworker (wife) could neither find any sheep nor any job. She also failed to pass the “language benchmark test” in the past three years. She was not only discouraged, but also looked down by others. Those who did not understand her, just asked her to repent, but did not realize that she was one who also need to be shepherding. I felt her frustration. I encouraged her that God can easily give you a job.” (14/8/2011, message of HK SBC, John 21:1-17)


Summary of case 2:  From the above message and sogam, we can see that shep.Tang XX’s sheep, “Shep. Wanna Buy House”, cannot live freely in the real world as he said. His wife was requested to repent and lacked of being shepherded. If he follows the teaching of TangXX, it is impossible for him to travel. Therefore, his speech was misleading or untrue. It is presumptuous for him to speak such misleading or untrue speech. Is it inherited from TangXX?



Case 3  (A CUHK Shepherdess, Shep. G, claimed, “I was not arranged marriage in UBF”)


During KimChi Talk, Dr Cheung Teng asked if UBF will arrange marriage and asked the UBF shepherds whether they were arranged marriage in UBF or not, and asked them to answer one by one. At that time, all shepherds kept silent, including the faith ancestor shep. TangXX. Nobody answered. However, Shep. G stood up suddenly and took herself as an example. She told that she had a boyfriend before, and later they got married in UBF, instead of being  “arranged marriage”. Although she was telling something true, she hided the fact that 90% of the shepherds are arranged married in UBF – Hong Kong. Her marriage is just a rare example in UBF. Although she did not tell lie, such speech is misleading people to think that brothers and sister have freedom to date with someone and choose to marry in UBF-Hong Kong.


Summary of case 3: Shepherdess G took herself as an example, so that people think that not all shepherds are arranged to marry in UBF. However, she did not honestly point out the fact that 90% of the marriages of shepherds are “arranged marriages”. This practice was misleading, confusing the public and resulted of losing her integrity.


The aftermath of KimChi Talk

Recently, a former UBF member shared with me honestly the follows:


Since his shepherd often told him that the speech on web are false, it is difficult for him to distinguish whether they are true or false, as a result, he hesitated and stayed in UBF for a period. However, “KimChi Talk” helped trigger his decision to leave UBF because he personally saw that UBF shepherds was lying, hiding the facts, misleading and confusing the public. The missionaries (as leaders) were hiding behind in the Q&A session of KimChi Talk. These triggered him to question the integrity of the UBF missionaries and shepherds. Finally, he realized that the speech on web is mostly with evident to support. He had reflections after “KimChi Talk” and he finally made decision to leave UBF-Hong Kong. He left UBF because he heard the voice of UBF shepherds (especially those with ancestor class), and that helped trigger his decision to leave UBF.


I believe those shepherds, including Shep. Tang XX, Shep. G and Shep. “Wanna buy house”, are victims indeed. They are kind-hearted. They thought that they could stand out as the shields for the missionaries which caused this exposure of their speech suspected of lying and misleading.


I hope those missionaries, as leaders, do not use the poor local shepherds to become their shields. So that they could be leaders who walk in front of the sheep bravely to face and address the issue of UBF’s manipulation, dictatorship and lies, etc.


“You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” (John 8:44) This key verse is often used by UBF shepherds for teaching the sheep. Hope that each time when they teach the sheep this key verse, they could also reflect on it.

  


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Prayer for Hong Kong UBF (13 May 2012)


Posted on 05/12/2012, 5:53 pm, by briank 

Today I received the following email from a former Hong Kong UBF member. With her permission, I share the unedited email. Please pray for our brothers and sisters in Hong Kong UBF who are experiencing painful division. The main reason is the same as in other UBF chapters: a constant demand by leaders for sheep to submit to their authority, in the name of “keeping spiritual order” and honoring the UBF spiritual heritage above human relationships. As I wrote earlier in November 2011, this problem has been ongoing in Hong Kong UBF.


1 Corinthians 12:26-27 “26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.  27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.”


On 12.05.2012 00:37, Exodus Ubf wrote:

Dear Brain,
Thank you for your support and encouragement on your blog. I am glad to be your friend too.

We just heard a news that one house church (Shep Paul Liu & Shep Rebekah) and their fellowship members have all left HK UBF last week. Rebekah is the greatest disciple of Msn Angela Kim (other than Shep Maria and her coworker Shep Hayes Tang) and Her fellowship once was the biggest family (around 10-20 members) in HKUBF. Actually Shep. Paul Liu once was the ancestor of faith in Hong Kong UBF and he is one of the messengers of SWS (Chapter II) in HKUBF. However, Msn Angela Kim suddenly raised up Shep Hayes Tang as the Abraham of Faith to replace his position. Here is his testimony:

“Shepherd Hayes Tang reported on Hong Kong Mission,and shared his life testimony. He became a born again Christian through one to one Bible study during his school days, and then he became an ancestor of faith in Hong Kong UBF …”

Last week, Shep Rebekah leave UBF together with her fellowship members. We don’t know the details for the cause of their leaving, exactly numbers of exodus and their future plans. However, one brother told us that she might be blamed by Msn Angela Kim. Actually, we know that Shep Rebekah has long been discredited by Msn Angela Kim because she had her own thinking, did not listen to her words and obey her absolutely.

Indeed, it is because Shep Rebekah loves the sheep so much, and she doesn’t want to use the UBF method of dictatorship and manipulation to serve God’s sheep.

We tell her that some pastors who are familiar with the operation of UBF are very willing to have Bible study or counselling supports to them if they need. And we will remember them in our prayer.

Thank you for your continuous concern about UBF – Hong Kong. May God bless you and you family.

In Christ,
HK Exodus




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Why don’t “Watching something missionary” request his/her coworker to do make-up, rather than requesting the bros. & sis.?  
(11 May 2012)


I remembered that "Watching something” missionary have also mentioned many times that if sisters love Jesus, they will be very beautiful and no need to use SK-II (make-up products). Is "Watching something” missionary implying that the sisters were not loving Jesus and thus they should use make-up? If this is true, does Devil Angel and Armor using make-up imply that they do not love Jesus and they had dark faces?

The coworker of "Watching something” missionary always blame the others with a dark face in GBS, why don’t "Watching something” missionary command his/her coworker to use make-up to make the face bright?


Why doesn’t "Watching something” missionary give pressure to his/her coworker to serve more than 20 sheeps, instead of giving pressure to the bros. & sis.? I have heard that "Watching something” missionary served only 1 sheep for a long period. So he/she “seized” the sheeps (force others to give sheeps) from another missionary and other shepherd. The sheeps that he/she has right now, were seized from the others. For example, Blad Elisha, Prince with faith’s root. Once “Devil Angel” said that “Watching something” missionary seized his/her sheep while he/she was serious sick.  He/she seemed to be very tragic while speaking. The “devil angel” said these things behind him. Even that missionary did not know that he/she was discredited by the others.


Actually, if "Watching something” missionary had no sheep, he/she should follow his/her teaching to use make-up, which is betther than seizing the sheeps from the others. On the other hand, “Devil Angel” always speak ill of the other behind. This is not right.






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"Watching something” missionary ignored the health of bros. & sis., and commanded bros. and sis. to follow the example of "armor" (10 May 2012)

Posted on: 05-08-2012 9:10      Post subject: Re: On the freedom of Christians  

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ffgh wrote:
Today I read a sermon of Martin Luther.  Although this sermon talks about monk's life, but is very suit for describing this organization.  I get two points as follows :   
(1)  Everyone is obedience to God, received the calling from God, and cannot be forced by the others.   
(2)  cannot because some people can, the others must follow them.  Because everyone is different.   
However, this organization has a lot of things of forcing someone to serve.  From the sermon, this organization cannot make people to live the Christian life.  
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Thank you for sharing! This organization does have this problem: one is forced to serve or have to serve under peer pressure (others’ eyes). In fact, this problem starts from the missionaries as the leaders. The following is an example, it happened in a praying meeting of Bible School many years ago.

At that time, “watching something” missionary gave an announcement and said, all the shepherds should learnt from Armor, because he/she served more than 20 1:1 each week, and said the news has shocked the Korean brothers and sisters , because she struggled to serve even he/she did not have time to eat. And then the missionaries said to all the brothers and sisters, "the Bible School should be like the heaven banquet, do not bring the dark face to the meetings, if any sister has dark face, she can use make-up to make the face shiny, if you do not know how to make-up, you can ask armor who always has bright face because of using make-up."

As shown in the above example, the missionaries are used to use  the mean of "glorifying someone to give pressure to the others", and these things are very common. Such as the above example, the missionary gave “Shock encouragements” to the others through glorifying armor. As a result making shep without much sheeps very tragic, subject to contempt in the eyes of others or lower poisition in the church.  Of course, the shepherds will also pass on the pressures to the sheeps, the sheeps will obey to do what the shepherds request ultimately under such kind of peer pressure.

Q1. “Serving without eating” is completely ignoring one’s  health. Even the kindergarten will teach the students such common sense of aware one’s health and to have a balanced diet. However UBF's missionaries are totally ignoring it. Does the Korean kindergarten not teach about that?

Q2. If those sisters listened to the words of the missionary to learn armor serve without eating and fainted on the way, as a result she need to see a doctor by using her own expense. It brings the loss the money, physical body, and time. So whose responsibility is it? Is it the responsibility of the missionary? 

Q3 Missionary is not “God”. How can he/she know the motivation of serving of the armor?  Perhaps it is due to competing and jealousy, or the pursuit of the glory of human?  (Note: once the armor are competing with two senior sisters Shepherds  (though  one of them went abroad later, while the other is  still in UBF) , and he/she repented the sins of competing with them through sharing sogam publicly. How can the missionary omit the possibility of strife and jealousy, or the glory, striving to serve? Indeed serving God with such motives cannot glorify God.) 

Let me introduce you the following website which allows you to better understand the actual operation of the global  UBF: 


The content is very rich. It analyze this organization from different points of views.




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One more excellent example of UBF "say one thing and do another" practice (4 May 2012)


“The special relationship between Israel and God is an unimaginable privilege. His people have been given great freedom, they do not have the book tyrant slave life. "
"Through the establishment of boundaries, God protect him and where from the spiritual and physical harm."
(UBF Daily Bread, Lev
7:22-38, 4 / 5/2012)

1.     UBF believers actually do not want to pay a high cost to participate the International Bible Conference. However, since Shepherd “armor” even without money but borrow money from his/her father to participate it, the other UBF believers subject to great pressure, had to scrimp and save but also to participate by paying their own cost;
2     UBF believers are required to serve a lot from morning to night, and must report to the missionary about the serving and the number, they often afraid of the number of the fellowship members is less than the others, not good enough, or innuendo and criticism by UBF missionary in the message/ DB, they often tied up by fear;
3      UBF believers must obey the arrangement of marriage. They must marry even with a brother who is a few years younger, or a brother who is shorter, or gay or a sister with staunch character, like soldiers, and they must marry within one month.
4.    UBF shepherd wants to buy a flat, but he could not.

5.          UBF shep. take the "English benchmark test " many times but fail, some coworkers did not comfort him/her. Instead, they ask him/her to repent.

6.    UBF shep who has a root of faith is asked to absolute attend the Sunday worship. As a result, he/she cannot take the Sunday benchmark tests, and he/she must wait one more year to retake the test;
7.    UBF scapegoat sister's son even has a high fever. However, his/her Shepherd forced he/her to absolute attend Bible study. However, afterwards he/she said that this behavior is just the spiritual mother taught spiritual sons and daughters;
8.     If UBF believers do not listen the words of the UBF missionaries, he/she will be arranged to study Bible with a “Troubled Senior Shep” at any time.

9     When UBF sheep grow to a period of time, UBF missionaries would come, and ask you to give the sheep to he/she, to study Bible with him/her (in fact, they want to get your fruit, i.e. your sheep);
10. UBF missionaries do not need to wash the toilet, but you need to do all, such as vacuuming, mopping, cleaning the toilet, etc.;
11. UBF missionary has salary, but you even fail to get the minimum salary $28 (in HK) for washing toilet;
12. UBF missionaries have the right to criticize you, even publicly accuse you. But if you dissatisfied and complain about them, then you may be discredited or they will pray for your weak faith publicly.
13. UBF missionaries ignore to deal with the church the core issue (for example: control, dictatorship, financial ...), but if you dissatisfacted with these issues, the UBF missionaries will say that these are complains, sins, thankless, etc. And you have to written sogam to repent the sin of thankless.

Q1: Is the life of the UBF believers really like what is said in Daily Bread that they can enjoy great freedom, or they are living in the life of a tyrant slave?
Q2: Why the boundary established by UBF missionaries to UBF believers is obviously violating the Bible teaching, severe beyond the boundaries of it? 

Source: http://www.armbell.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4894&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=90&sid=2f22d6e6c4fefe966c377026dbd8b79d&mforum=liberalhk




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A Corinth missionary’s sogam - stretched out the hands of kimchi (24 Apr 2012)

Prayer: Please to today's twenty-first century in a civilized city, Hong Kong, manipulation, and the dictatorship of the Jesus people pray, Pray executeth righteousness trial, came to embrace the right of the dictator, so that the oppressed people have with release, re had a free and peaceful life.

Part 1  I have never stretched out my hand
"Jesus commanded that we held out his hand in front of everybody, that is, the gathering of the saints, with a cure for the main confidence, personal shame sin to the light, so the Lord to heal and clean. For example, through sharing sogam, we can stretch our right hand out for the Lord to heal. "(From of UBF III of the worship information, 22/4, Luke 6:1-19)

(1) If held out his hand is so good, why 
Corinth missionaries without publicly withered hand out, do their hands trotter?

2. Will the servant of the Sunday information, he would only loyalty hand cured? (At work suddenly doing the play and being the boss blame) why has not seen He held out his hand to the Lord to heal. ?

"I ask you, on the Sabbath to do good evil, life-saving lethal, Which is it? ... Jesus, so that the core of the issue is whether to do good and important life-saving, or the observance of the Sabbath does not work important. God joy in everyday life to do good and save lives, said human righteousness and the fear of God in the Bible, such as Job in the Old Testament. how the Jews of the goodness of God, the joy of people to pursue, but on the Sabbath reversed regarded as incorrect, illegal it? black white and white to black. "(From of UBF III of the worship information, 22/4, Luke 6:1-19)

(3) the information of this passage is direct, means that Jesus work on the Sabbath, while the Pharisee law conviction, as in UBF, brothers and sisters in the absence of worship or gatherings because of work, while Pharisee-like missionaries publicly convicted. This scripture is so direct and simple, but why the information servants to be as rotation and complex, I do not know whether he would like furtive want to insinuate the others?

Part II. I'm sorry, I'm not a spiritual parent, but a master cook poisonous kimchi

"Through the gospel, Paul became the spiritual father of the Corinthians." (UBF days taken from the grain, 23/4, II Corinthians 12:11-21)

Corinth missionaries often say that they are spiritual parents, in fact, just a master cook poisonous kimchi paternalistic manipulation and Persian mysticism toxic kimchi, to poison the believers, but Well never refused to recognize and face their own manipulation monopolizes power and authoritarian core issue, but whenever encountered kimchi disaster, exposing sins, it will issue to push in the Corinthian church and believers, but not to confront and deal with the core of the problem, and then called the Corinthians The church and believers to repent.

Part III. Hope you will not learn from me, kimchi magic!

"Many of the problems the church at Corinth, Paul's hope they repent before he came." (UBF days taken from the grain, 23/4, II Corinthians 12:11-21)

Corinth Missionary most good to spill out the push side, flash, avoid dumping "kimchi magic, while the Corinthian elders to shirk its responsibility to give them long Corinth missionaries so that they encounter problems will be conditioned to the responsibility onto the individual person and the victim, or all the property to a person's sin, thinking that as long as the repentance of some sins, all problems will be solved, so simple-minded to analyze the problem, will not only trapped in the vicious cycle of repeated, but also to the Corinthian believers to bear the fruits of irresponsible, the irresponsible practice passed down, for example: no matter what scandal occurs, they will say: This is just an isolated incident, as long as repentance, all problems will be resolved! They repeated and repeatedly say, a brain seems to be cleaned; they have completed the 
Corinth University, not even basic common sense, very poor!

"Paul ... did not the preacher after the leave, but left to love and serve them." (UBF days taken from the grain, 23/4, II Corinthians 12:11-21)

Paul obviously will leave shortly after in the preacher will not last long stay in a local manipulation of believers, however, Corinth missionaries to stay in Corinth University, refused to leave, just want life to the paternalistic manipulation Corinth believers, but the fine-sounding name, not the preacher after the leave, but left to love and serve them, is really very interesting! !

Corinth missionary's One Word: Lord! I am willing to stretch out my hand of "avoiding responsibilities". From now on, I will not say that I am the spiritual parents to manipulate the people no longer use the scriptures to insinuate the others, I beg you pardon me!

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離開的 UBF 宣教士和牧者也曾有過以下 HKCOC 弟兄作者的類似經歷。
(former UBF missionaries and shepherds had similar experience of this brother author of HKCOC)



標題:披著羊皮的「牧人」
("Shepherds" dressed in sheep's clothing)

John Chan

2004年9月2日

序

我於94年2月受浸加入HKCOC(香港基督教會),2003年底被冠上莫須有的罪名遂出教會。在HKCOC近十年日子裡,我曾以為自己是“依從聖經標準的教會的門徒”而深深感恩,也曾努力依領袖判定的各種方向去成長和侍奉,更相信“教會”的領袖是神揀選的,相信他們代表神,值得我們相信、模仿和支持。
在2003年HKCOC改革浪潮中,我閱讀了外國兩個弟兄所寫的文章 “Honest To God” (參:1) 和“Castle In The Air” (參:2),見到HKCOC真的有很多和聖經教導不符之處。抱著愛“教會”和相信領袖支持改革之心,我和“教會”領袖相約了一次又一次的傾談,誰料給我看到的,是他們羊皮下的真面目……,多年來,我一直相信和支持的竟然是個泡影,我心如刀割。但很感謝主的恩助,離開了HKCOC﹐就如詩篇23篇所說:

祂使我躺臥在青草地上,領我在可安歇的水邊。 
我雖然行過死蔭的幽谷,也不怕遭害,因為你與我同在;你的杖,你的竿,都安慰我。

我一家在新教會就如久未歸家的羊,生命得到真正的牧養和安息,更在學習追求主的功課上重新上路。

要回憶和寫下2003年最後日子的點滴並不容易,但為了還在HKCOC裡未看清﹑未清醒的弟兄姊妹,能讓他們知道更多真實情況。我除為他們祈禱外,只能借此盡自己的愛心,把它們記錄下來,也為將來若有人被HKCOC迷惑,當見到我的經歷,能清醒遠離。



一﹒笑迎教會改革

去年四月初,區域領袖 Lawrence 代表教會到訪城市東教區家庭聚會,揭開HKCOC改革的序幕。他在House Church向會眾宣讀一封立場信《給香港基督教會的信》,主要是回應洛杉磯基督教會的道歉信,我十分欣賞他的開放和坦白,在回應時間, 我舉手說:『人誰無過,讓我們一起悔改,建立教會。』 
我一向敬愛和支持領袖,認識我的弟兄姊妹可以證明。



二﹒改革,要改什麼?

當我決定全力投入和教會領袖們一起悔改重建教會時,我開始看“Honest To God”這篇引發ICOC(國際基督教會)弟兄姊妹心靈震盪的文章。它使我如夢初醒,原來自稱“唯一跟從聖經標準的教會”,光天化日之下將聖經斷章取義,建造一套美名“師徒”關係但實際是貨真價實的金字塔式的權力架構,漠視恩典,過份強調行為,將屬靈成長等同為個人成就。而在教會金字塔越高的屬靈領袖享受的福利更是驚人,是普通會眾難以相信的地步。
原來我近10年的基督徒生命是活在人的階級制度下,我和眾弟兄姊妹為愛神愛人而拚命付出,但我們所信的這個權力機構就帶領我們更加遠離聖經,遠離恩典,真是太可怕了。 
請讓我細說ICOC 權力架構是怎麼一回事。ICOC自視為神的國,通過師徒制建立了一個仿如金字塔的管理模式,位置低要服從和模仿位置高的,因為位置高就越像神,所以,你若有不服從師傅,不聽領袖的話,就是不聽神的話,不服從神了。若離開ICOC就是離開神,因為ICOC是世上“唯一神的國”,若要加入教會就必須認同以上的論點。這樣,最高領袖便可透過此架構操控會眾,會眾也順理成章接受在上
領袖對教義和聖經教訓的演繹。 
看後我很感謝Henry Kriete對聖經的理解,欣賞他勇於赤裸裸揭露教會各方面不符聖經之處。當想起弟兄姊妹因此所受的傷害,還有因受不了壓力和傷害而被教會判定或自己判定自己不配作基督徒而離開教會“會落地獄”的弟兄姊妹, 我很痛心和羞恥! 我憤慨激烈地大聲說:夠了!教會怎能再容忍階級權力操控和傷害弟兄姊妹呢!我見到這些傷害是由上而下的,人人都不能逃避的。所以,我當時深信所有的領袖和看過“Honest To God”的弟兄姊妹都有我這樣的心情,我深信我所敬愛的領袖定比我感受更深刻,一定會帶領教會悔改的。


三﹒開始向領袖表達意見

抱著以上的心情,在教會立場信發出後一星期,我向前教區領袖Eric和區域領袖Lawrence了解為何“Honest To God”所指出的問題,在ICOC每間教會都存在,LACOC發出的是道歉信,為何HKCOC發出的是立場信?階級制和錯誤教義所構成的傷害難道不是罪,不須向會眾道歉嗎?同時,若領袖不向會眾解釋它們就是種種傷害的禍根,教會怎能真正悔改?但出乎意料,他們的答覆都是“現時是只收集意見階段,遲一點會向會眾交代,很明白你的感受,但我亦聽到有些弟兄姊妹看法與你不同,他們認為領袖很謙卑,他們覺得教會正向好方面改變。”
因此,這期間,我和幾個信念相同的弟兄相約教區領袖EH有三次長時間熱烈耐心的表達,我更有三次和區域領袖Lawrence長時間的電話交談,向他表達了“很認同教會弟兄姊妹會有不同看法,因大家的經歷遭遇不同。加上大部分會眾都沒看過“Honest To God”,更難明白教會真正要悔改什麼。但確實,我們所受的種種傷害是由階級制度和錯誤教義構成的,高層實在責無旁貸向會眾表白來龍去脈,讓每個弟兄姊妹都可以史為鑑,就如有人傷害了別人,你豈能問受傷的那個意見呢?”終於,在2003年5月4日前的一個晚上,我收到Lawrence的電話,“你的意見已對教會作出貢獻, 領袖會在5月4日的全教會崇拜向會眾道歉。” 我欣賞領袖走對了一步,同時也向他了解為何要到有很多不滿的聲音才道歉,他沈重的說:“Sorry! 我們遲了!”我還問他到時會否分享由“立埸信”到“道歉”的心路歷程。因為我們是一家人,相信很多會眾很想明白領袖的心。 但他說:“你看過星期日的道歉才算吧。”



四﹒含淚迎接領袖們的道歉

2003年5月4日,在文化中心舉行了全教會主日祟拜,各區域傳道人各自就帶領上的錯誤向會眾道歉,最後,主任牧師林志信代表他們讀出了“給香港基督教會的信”。雖然道歉姍姍來遲,我和很多弟兄姊妹一樣被領袖們的謙卑感動了,我含著淚想:“人誰無過,讓我們一起悔改上路吧!”我滿懷信心,盼望著教會改革的新開始。此後,事情不但並未就此結束,反而是我追求改革的另一個階段。

我反覆思想,可惡的階級制和教義謬誤是傷害我們的毒根,Philip必然比任何人更明白這是必須首要處理的,他為什麼隻字不提? 我細心對照前後兩封《給香港基督教會的信》,發現兩大伏線。
1. 第一封信提及傷害是由階級制的帶領模式所做成,在第二封信避而不談,只以個別傷害的例子作為道歉的主體。
2. 第一封信提出需要在行政和財務上有監察角色,在第二封信改為需要有財務顧問小組,換言之,不需要監察。
這些字眼上的更改, 顯明地經過考慮,Philip不談階級制度是構成種種傷害的根本,不提唯一教會,ICOC=神的國…等是錯誤教義和不提監察,原因是甚麼?難道是因為Philip身在最高位,有既得利益?這是我心中的疑問。但情感上,我依然相信領袖。



五﹒與“尊敬信任”的領袖展開了艱難的溝通

領袖在5月4日道歉後,就財務問題設立了財務顧問小組,就“唯一教會”等教義問題設立了“研經小組”,這些帶領模式的改善,得到了很多弟兄姊妹的歡迎。但我想了很久,心中依然存疑,因為領袖採取的只是“舊瓶新酒”模式。問題的關鍵是,弟兄姊妹所受的傷害來自於階級制度,故此,應該改革的是架構本身。我相信領袖首先需要向會眾解釋以下問題。

* 金字塔式的教會制度與管理是按什麼基礎設立的? 
* 這和新約的制度模式有何不同? 
* 我們的制度是否服從神的意思?

若原有的制度跟從神的意思,改革就可收窄至個別的帶領問題上。否則,教會領袖必須為這違背神的制度所帶來的種種傷害而破碎,向會眾道歉,並跟從新約模式改革原有的架構。這是跟隨聖經教導的唯一出路.
剛好新一季開始,牧養傳道人Turner接手帶領我所在的城市東教區。順理成章,我向他表達了上述的疑問。Turner起初回應說:“舊約有十夫長,百夫長,千夫長的架構,我們沒有違反聖經”我以為他誤解我的話,在多次的相約會談裡,我一再表明HKCOC的金字塔式架構,下層要服從上層的做法構形成了階級制度,上層意見變成必須遵守的命令,下層被壓制,被操控,根本有違聖經。但就我多次“畫公仔畫
出腸”,他仍然支吾以對,答非所問,還反問,你是不是想不要領袖,要Philip下台?
在這個議題上,我們溝通了一個月,其間他給我5個不同的答覆(按時間順序):

1. 架構不是說改就改,這個問題我幫不到你。
2. 任何組織都需有負責人,正如學校要有校長一樣。
3. 架構正在改著,遲些再和你談吧。
4. 我們現時只剩下兩個級別,就是Sector Leaders和Regional Leaders。
5. 階級架構已經沒有了,我們現時只有受訓傳道人和傳道人兩個級別,你認為是否合理?
我說一個訴求,Turner給出5個答案,實在吃不消,事實上,他用5個答案來回答,只顯出他極之不負責任,現在想起,聖經已一語道破他的心:

你們的話,是,就說是;不是,就說不是;若再多說,就是出於那惡者(註:或作“是從惡裡出來的”)。(馬太五:37) 

另一方面,他對我的查經小組領袖說我要“鏟平架構”,“不要領袖”,類似的言論,他也單獨對我太太及支持我的弟兄說過,2003年8月 我將自己的信念寫下《教會架構和領導模式》(參3:教會架構和領導模式),電郵給Philip和Turner,我已開始感到領袖無意改革架構。 

同時,自高層公開道歉以來,他們常常透過家庭聚會,祟拜講道,向會眾灌輸自己的立場(有些更不合聖經原則) (參4:關於Dinesh 講道及 HKCOC 的改革),更指桑罵槐抹黑反映意見的弟兄,我多次向Turner反映,他多次向我解釋道歉,但仍舊照做。



六﹒面談前挑撥離間,面談時答非所問

對我在2003年8月寫的《教會架構和領導模式》﹐Philip電郵回覆,叫我約一幫意見相同的弟兄姊妹和他及其他領袖在10月12日面談。(參5:邀請:各弟兄姊妹參加與 Philip和Turner 的約會)

面談前兩星期,Turner向我取了赴約的名單,然後他去個別約他們,抹黑我,向他們說“我要領袖下台”類似的言論,勸他們不要出席,有當事弟兄事後將經過告訴我。Turner的挑撥離間手法,令我更加反感。
面談中,我問Philip: 『教會金字塔式的架構,是否構成階級制度?』

Philip面有難色地回答:“我從受浸到如今都在這個制度下”,答非所問。但在隨後的傾談中他卻無意中說出來,他說:『在最近一次ICOC的高層領導會議中,……已一致除去銜頭,並跟回聖經,聖經說傳道人就是傳道人,長老就是長老。我們不想再因為這些階級,你是一個World Sector Leader,你是一個Geographic Sector Leader,不想再以這些階級定人。』Philip間接承認了教會是用階級制度作帶領模式。 
其實,Philip是知道教會存在階級制度的權力,但在5月份他親自執筆的道歉信,又是這樣表達權力的,信中有一段寫著:『我從弟兄姊妹身上見到當權力交予不夠成熟的人手中,曾造成不能磨滅的傷害, ....人的專嚴甚至被踐踏,....』,他將造成的傷害完全歸咎於不成熟的人,可能是那不成熟的人濫用權力,好像問題不在階級制下的權力似的,正如高層常說:『制度是中性的,只是人的罪,偏離了聖經。』 
可知高層為求洗脫罪名,就用以上混淆視聽的話去掩息罪根。試想想,若傷害弟兄姊妹的層面是『人的尊嚴甚至被踐踏』,背後的原因其實是弟兄姊姊誤聽命於階級下的權力和誤信異端教義(階級越高的領袖就越代表神,要絕對服從領袖,不聽命於領袖就不服從神, 若離開ICOC就是離開神)以致含冤受辱於邪惡的權力下。若是這樣,Philip信中的那句應更改為“我從弟兄姊妹身上見到當我將異端教義和階級制度中的權力交予...”,但他由始至終在會眾面前隻字不提錯誤教義和階級權力所導致的傷害,弟兄姊妹就依然蒙在鼓裡,Philip等高層真是深謀遠慮。 



七﹒牧養傳道人演譯“被逐的,我必領回”

2003年10月5日,Scott的“Trust or Leave”講道後一天,高層正式揭開了他們的底牌,立即展開清洗行動。Turner問我怎樣看Scott講道? 我問他 Scott的用意是否不信任領袖的門徒,就要走?他回答說:“沒錯, 你沒理解錯誤,正如你存錢在銀行,你必定會找一間信得過的……….,若你對領袖有很大不滿,那麼教會服待不到你了,你可找一間與你理念一致的教會” 我回答:“這是教會,不是銀行,你怎可叫家庭成員走呢! 我所提出改革的訴求不是要溝通和共識嗎?” (參6:香港基督教會的信仰根基)
原來高層口口聲聲說“悔改和聽意見”背後竟是這麼一回事;道歉信中是怎樣承諾的:『失喪的,我必尋找,有病的,我必醫治;受傷的,我必纏裹;被逐的,我必領回。』原來竟是“Trust or Leave”,這幫所謂的牧羊人竟這樣對待愛教會的羊,我悲傷失望極了!


八﹒高層領袖所謂的“搶咪事件”

我和城東的幾個信念相同的弟兄商議,既然高層對改革執迷不悟,要瞞天海過繼續愚民。我們決定要做一些較強烈的行動,盼能喚醒更多弟兄姊妹對改革的關注。我們決定在house church(2003年12月10日)公開一些大是大非的教會財務問題(參7:教會的財務需要與理財原則)

當晚,唱完opening song後,我向Turner說:『要向弟兄分享一些東西。』當我走上咪前,Turner立即以手蓋咪。並以下述三個理由拒絕了:i.不依開會程序,產生混亂; ii. 事前未經他同意,並不是我想向會眾說什麼都可以; iii. 會製造分化。我最終沒能說出半句實情。


九﹒高層領袖笑裡藏刀,作假見證,逐我出教會

2003年12月14日,祟拜後, Godwin和 Turner分別與我傾談教會財務問題﹐完畢時他們分別說:『我很相信你是真心為教會好﹐其實我們大家都是一致,想教會合一。』『今天和你有很好的溝通,若你想的話,可和Philip 繼續溝通。』(參8:Godwin“花了很多時間去『勸戒』他(John)的行為”的真相)
兩天後(12月16日),星期二晚大約10:30PM,Turner 來電,他二話不說就讀出一封逐我出教會的信,主要內容是﹕自四月以來,本人在網上發表的文章斷章取義,曲解聖經;加上,上星期三本人在house church中擅自要向會眾發表對奉獻的信念和發報一些財政事實,令到有些弟兄姊妹產生不安。基於上述的理由,眾傳道人和城市東的一群查經班領袖一致議決要我離開教會。(事後,一位城市東的查經班領袖向我證實,Turner根本沒和他們作出任何disfellowship我的議決。)

12月17日,星期三house church,Godwin宣布逐我出教會的事,他開始前對我說:『你不可出聲。』(他意思是不准我申辯),但house church剛開始,阿強到場對Turner提出質問﹐有人將電燈關掉﹐然後人群發生推撞﹐阿強於是報警。傳道人Godwin和牧養傳道人Turner隨即急忙離開,但大部分弟兄姊妹仍然在場。(參9:報警事件背後的實情) 為什麼他們趕著走呢?聖經說:

雇工逃走,因他是雇工,並不顧念羊(約10:13)

12月21日主日崇拜,Godwin在講道中以謊言砌詞,假借聖經,作假見證,向會眾交代為何逐我出教會。(參8:Godwin“花了很多時間去『勸戒』他(John)的行為”的真相)



十﹒高層一邊講道,一邊行惡

高層常常以神的代言人的口吻來教導弟兄姊妹:

1. 要信任領袖。
2. 神不要我們著眼於領袖的罪,若領袖犯罪,神會處理。
3. 奉獻的錢是給神。
4. 要做好自己,做神的工作。
但卻又一面行惡:

1. 隱瞞『階級權力』和『異端教義』對弟兄姊妹的毒害。
2. 不坦白『唯一教會』對千萬人深遠的傷害。借用被蒙在鼓裡的會眾撰寫『一個真正教會』的報告,順理成章改口自稱為『一個真正教會』,傲慢上天,繼續自欺欺人。(參10:一個真正教會, 一個驕傲到頂的自稱)
3. 以拯求最多人為由,軟硬兼施要求會眾捨己奉獻.另一方面,高層福利豐厚,享受高質素的生活,而他們卻只以底薪的十分一計算奉獻,真是雙重標準,嚴人肥己。
4. 對反映意見的弟兄指桑罵槐,抹黑弟兄(參11: 強烈抗議教會領袖將異見門徒逐出教會)
5. 今天就財政問題向我道歉,明天就作假見證,逐我出教會。

為什麼高層可一邊講道,教導人做神的工,另一邊行惡,做傷害別人的事情,他們的良知到那裡去了?
我深信他們起初是本著單純真心愛神而成為基督徒的。在名銜越高就代表越屬靈的階級制度下,以為神重用自己,以為自己高人一等。所以高層出爾反爾,不要財務行政監察,要繼續當權。當有人揭發他們在行政和財務上的錯誤時,他們為保面子權位,不惜行惡以對付,以為自己代表神,就算不遵行神的旨意,甚至行惡去傷害別人都以為可得神寬恕,真是徹頭徹尾的法利賽人。主耶穌曾嚴厲說過:

凡稱呼我“主啊,主啊”的人,不能都進天國;惟獨遵行我天父旨意的人,才能進去。 當那日,必有許多人對我說:“主啊,主啊,我們不是奉你的名傳道,奉你的名趕鬼,奉你的名行許多異能嗎?”我就明明地告訴他們說:“我從來不認識你們,你們這些作惡的人,離開我去吧!”(馬太七:21-23)



後記﹕人間有情

HKCOC高層無情,人間有情。 離開HKCOC後,神帶領我一家參與一間正統基督教會的聚會。我永不會忘記起初參與新教會聚會時,使我感觸流淚的片段。那裡崇拜充滿仰望主的安靜,弟兄姊妹之間的關顧,是發自內裡的虛心和溫柔,他們的愛心使我和家人得安慰。很感謝主,在那裡傳道人的幫助下,我們一班前HKCOC會員得以解開以往信念上的謬誤,重新追求純正的信仰,重新投入教會生活。
願主賜分辨是非能力和愛真理之心給一幫誤入異端的弟兄姊妹,願主的愛充滿世界!



參考:

1. 對神誠實 Honest To God, by Henry Kriete,Final Version 2/2/2003.
http://cit.ucd.net/GV/Pacrim/JP/tokyo/chinese/HenryKriete/HK_C.doc (中文WORD 版)
http://www.ucd.net/GV/USSW/US/CA/SD/Studies/2003Letters/20030202HonestToGod.pdf(English version)

2. Castle In The Air
http://www.upcyberdown.org/GV/Comrades/US/PA/Philadelphia/castles.pdf

3. 教會架構和領導模式,John Chan, 10/8/2003.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/page9.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=94&LastModified=4675433964352593857

4. 關於Dinesh 講道及 HKCOC 的改革,John Chan,14/9/2003.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/page9.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=156&LastModified=4675438770991889907

5. (重要消息) 邀請:各弟兄姊妹參加與 Philip和Turner 的約會,John Chan, 9/10/2003.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/general.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=240&LastModified=4675443237876328172

6. 香港基督教會的信仰根基,John Chan,11/4/2004.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/page7.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=1079&LastModified=4675470401762811587

7. 教會的財務需要與理財原則,John Chan,18/12/2003.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/page8.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=520&LastModified=4675480930476989490

8. Godwin“花了很多時間去『勸戒』他(John)的行為”的真相,John Chan, 2/1/2004.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/general.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=628&LastModified=4675454413425974789

9. 報警事件背後的實情,John Chan, 23/12/2003.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/general.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=543&LastModified=4675453979141856711

10. 一個真正教會, 一個驕傲到頂的自稱,John Chan. 29/5/2004.
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/page7.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=1294&LastModified=4675476417130770565

11. 強烈抗議教會領袖將異見門徒逐出教會,一個城市東教區的門徒?, 26/12/2003
http://groups.msn.com/hkcocdisciples/general.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=566&LastModified=4675453035219889180




操控性教會的架構-例子:COC  
(The structure of an abusive church, E.g. COC)



道歉信

我們是一群香港基督教會(Hong Kong Church of Christ﹐以下簡稱HKCOC)的前會員,各自於不同的時間離開HKCOC,現在參加不同的教會聚會,亦有自組小組聚會者,我們謹以此信向曾被我們因誤信HKCOC的錯誤教義及教導而衍生的行為所傷害過的人道歉,包括已離開HKCOC的弟兄姐妹、現在的會員及教會以外的朋友,﹝例如被HKCOC狂妄驕傲的『唯一教會』教義所論斷的教會及基督徒,還有曾經與我們查經,但因不同意HKCOC的教義而離開的朋友。﹞

自從Henry Kriete的信《Honest to God》(註1)出現以來,反省與改革的訴求席捲全球國際基督教會(International Churches of Christ﹐以下簡稱ICOC)。HKCOC亦不例外,由於會衆強烈的呼聲,HKCOC的高層於2003年5月4日在香港文化中心向全體會眾就以往的錯誤道歉,並發出一封致會眾的道歉信及展開一連串的教會改革,例如成立了教區回應小組、財務及行政咨詢小組、及研經小組。至今大半年已過去,因爲看不到教會領袖真正改革的誠意,我們在這段時間裏相繼離開HKCOC。

此信不在斥HKCOC之非,或數算其不是。只是我們過往曾積極參與HKCOC的會務,親眼目睹其對於會員屬靈生命的傷害,對ICOC以外的教會及基督徒的論斷,亦間接助長了這些行爲,對此我們深感悔疚,期能藉此信表達我們的歉意。

由於HKCOC的領袖們於2003年5月的道歉信既沒有觸及其教義及行爲上之根本錯誤,亦沒有對外界公開,很多已離開的弟兄姊妹並沒有接收到相關的信息,很多人仍然活在HKCOC所留下的創傷中,我們希望藉此將信息帶給他們,希望他們能儘快洗去陰影,重建對神的信心。

回顧這些年來我們在HKCOC的經歷,我們所目睹並參與其中的種種不堪回首的錯誤(註2)包括:

一、     唯一教會的教義

ICOC一向宣稱自己爲世上唯一的教會,我們亦曾將這一錯誤信息教導會眾及來查經的人士。這種排外及狂妄自大的『神的國等於教會,教會等於ICOC』理論,不但扭曲聖經,論斷了其他教會基督徒的救恩,亦扭曲了弟兄姊妹的人格,使很多人面對高壓而不敢離開HKCOC,即使離開HKCOC後亦不相信其他教會,屬靈生命從此一蹶不振。

二、     操控性的師徒關係

聖經說只有耶穌是我們的師傅,弟兄姊妹之間應互相勸勉、互相教導,但不應妄作別人的師傅。可是,多年來HKCOC實行的是由上而下、一對一的權力操控式的師徒關係,遠遠超過聖經所賦予守望者的界線。

在這種師徒關係中,存在『不服從由領袖所指定的那位師傅的意見等於不願意過門徒(基督徒)生命、等於不願意跟隨耶穌、等於不愛神,所以,生命中許多抉擇都須經由此師傅審核』的邏輯,此擧無異於將人的教訓等同於神的話語。

這種師徒關係將人分成等級,令弟兄姊妹之間的關係充滿權力與操控(例如高級的可以評定低級的為不屬靈,或認為其戀愛及擇偶對象不屬靈而限制該段戀愛關係 ) ,不能正常地建立健康的友情,當師徒關係不再(被安排另一個新的師傅),友情亦不復存在的情況比比皆是。

同時,『必須服從一個由領袖指定的師傅的意見(包括聖經沒有明文規定﹐純屬個人意見的事情)才是耶穌門徒』的背後是一種行爲稱義的思維模式,貶低了神的恩典,令很多人心中長期充滿罪疚感,甚至對基督徒生命失去信心。

雖然近年HKCOC在師徒關係處理上出現較多的寬鬆,但曾經帶來的傷害卻是揮之不去。

三、     行爲稱義

HKCOC對會員投入的定義很絕對,在加入成爲會員之前,必須先計算代價,包括強迫性的奉獻、教會聚會的地位凌駕於工作、學業、家庭及朋友之上,甚至要求戀愛中的男女朋友分手後才能受洗成爲會員,在這過程中剝奪了很多人認識神的機會。

同時,因為對『先求祂的國和祂的義』的曲解,令很多弟兄姊妹忽略與家庭的關係,甚至帶來很多與家人的衝突和傷害,並失去很多進修及工作的機會。

我們多年來在HKCOC中被教導說只有這樣才是全情投入,才是耶穌門徒應有的生命,我們亦因而這樣教導其他會員及查經的朋友。此種行爲稱義的教導不但論斷別人的救恩,更令很多人不相信自己能達到神的標準,自我價值受到嚴重貶低,不能再相信神的愛,不能重建對神純潔的心,亦沒有勇氣再次接觸教會。

同樣地,雖然近年HKCOC對『投入』、對於『先求祂的國和祂的義』的理解出現較多的彈性,但彈性不等於糾正,曾經帶來的傷害卻是揮之不去。

四、     資訊控制

在HKCOC中,資訊控制是慣常的手法(指封鎖不利消息),我們被教導成不會隨便向非會員公開教會的問題,也不會向被認爲屬靈上較軟弱的弟兄姊妹說一些教會中負面的東西。在這樣的環境中,我們習慣於否定別人提出的疑問,以致教會内錯誤的東西被隱藏,合理的疑問被壓制。這些做法美其名是為了不絆倒別人,但實際上卻等於包庇了領袖的罪,沒有盡一個守望者應有的責任,也蒙蔽了不知情的會衆及查經的朋友。

五、     愛心被利用為手段

HKCOC對會員人數的成長極為注重,常常使用帶朋友出席聚會及幫別人成為會員的統計數字來衡量弟兄姊妹的屬靈程度,並長期濫用弟兄姊妹的熱心,利用他們付出予查經的朋友以達到招收新的會員的目的,令愛心淪為手段。而當一段關係對會員人數成長的目標沒有幫助的時候,卻往往被忽略,帶來許多傷害。很多弟兄姊妹的愛心被一次又一次地利用後,最後變得冷卻。

凡此種種,今日依然歷歷在目。誠如上文所述,雖然HKCOC近年勸導領袖或師傅自律而出現較多的彈性與寬鬆,但曾經帶來的傷害,及其影響之深遠,卻不是『彈性』與『寬鬆』所能彌補,而且錯誤教義引致操控這根本性問題從未見實質的改變,甚至被掩蓋。我們雖不是這些錯誤的製造者,亦從未蓄意傷害任何人,卻曾因爲深信HKCOC的教義,而全情投入於其中,間接助長所帶來的傷害。回首深悔沒有庇哩亞人的精神(註3),認真考查聖經;亦沒有盡守望者的責任,吹響號角。今悟以往之不諫,惟望來者之可追,實迷途而甚遠,覺今是而昨非。爲此,我們衷心道歉,並切盼所有受過傷害的弟兄姊妹及朋友能儘快重建對神的信心。

此致
一群香港基督教會的前會員(註4)
2004 年 3 月 13 日


備註:
註1:       ICOC在倫敦基督教會傳導人Henry Kriete寫給全球整個ICOC教會的長老、教師及傳道人的公開信, 他在信內對國際基督教會作了深入的反省/批評,包括關於奉獻、門徒訓練、地方教會自主等問題。可參見以下網址:
             英文HTML版:
             中文WORD 版:
             中文HTML版:

註2:  有關HKCOC關於『唯一教會』、『因信稱義』及『神的國等於教會,教會等於ICOC』教義,可參閱:

註3:  一種舉世推崇的研經精神, 可參見使徒行傳17:10-12。

註4:參與簽署者名單:
姓名
會員年數
Ah Leung & Olivia
14 & 15.5
Roy & Siu Nga Chui
14 & 14
Thomas & Linda Wong  
14 & 14
Wilson Law
14
Ken & Wendy Chan
13 & 13
Ah Keung & Sonia
11 & 14
James & Eleanor Cheng
10 & 14
Peter Lee Hon Lim & Florence
12 & 11
John & Eliza Chan
9.5 & 13.5
Michael Tam
12
Charlie & Esther Wong
9 & 13
Jimmy Chang & Lui Guen
9 & 12
Jonathan & Peggy Cheung
10 & 10
Vincy Hui
10
Henry & Sylvia Kwan
7 & 8
Wallace Chu
6
Ah Lu
5.5
Celline Wong
3
Chau Yuk Ki
3
Samuel Chan
2.5

source: http://www.google.com.hk/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=3&ved=0CCYQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.fundamentalbook.com%2Fexhkcoc_apology_chi.doc&rct=j&q=%E6%93%8D%E6%8E%A7%E6%80%A7%E6%95%99%E6%9C%83&ei=R0ReTvGqH4fymAW-48wd&usg=AFQjCNGHZiNoSzP2ynvNHI1r0E6tXYDjrQ





我收集了一些 Spirutual Abuse 的文章,特別介紹了一些極端基督教派的特徵。

翻譯自《Abusive Churches》by Pat Zukaran

基督徒多數都對一些傳統教會定性為「異端」的教派,例如摩門教、耶和華見證人很熟識。但是我們也發現一些信仰群體、教派,含有類似「異端」的表現,卻和那些傳統教會定性為「異端」的教派有所不同。這些教派被稱為「Abusive church」、或者「高舉聖經的別異教派」。這些教會特點是,外表上信仰(例如公開宣稱的信仰內容)和很多主流、正統教會一般無二,唯一分別,就是他們一些 abusive 「虐待」、cult-like 類似「異端」的表現,或者部份異常的牧養、治會方法和理念。(Methodology and philosophy of ministry)

貓貓註:香港有的例如「香港基督教會」、「香港神的教會」、「香港錫安教會」、近期在大學校園活躍的 University Bible Fellowship,似乎屬於這類教會。早在八十年代,「香港基督教會」和「香港神的教會」已經有傳播媒介報導。因為其崇拜聚會外表形式類同部份靈恩派教會,令一些信仰純正、行為正常的靈恩派教會受連累,被當是有問題。

在一本書叫《Churches That Abuses》, Dr. Ronald Enroth 仔細研究美國數間這類的教會,而整理出這些教派用的類似「異端」的手法、其中數個明顯特徵。另外原文作者也會加自己的見解。

Abusive Church 的特徵

(一)極權、權威、家長式的領袖, Control Style Leadership。

(二)用不同手法玩弄人(manipulative),令信徒完全服從。

(三)非常嚴謹、殭化的教條去規管信徒的生活細節 rigid, legalistic lifestyle involving numerous requirements and minute details for daily life。

(四)這些教會成日轉名。(貓貓註,香港的情況是,部份些教會從來沒有固定聚會地點。「香港神的教會」在六十年代創立,但是十多廿年都沒有固定聚會地點,或者聚會地點常常改)

(五)常常指其他教會是已經「背道」、「不合神心意」,只有他們一間教會是真正教會。甚至會認為只有他們教會聚會的才是真正得救信徒。

(六)這些教會有「迫害妄想」、「殉道情結」(persecution complex and matyrdom complex),認為世界、傳播媒體和其他教會迫害他們。

(七)這些教會傳教對象是年輕人,約十八到二十五歲的年齡組別。

(八)如果信徒一旦加入,就極度難以離開。離開的話,那信徒會被教會指控,過程令他身心、情緒、心理都受很大痛苦 a process often marked by social, psychological, or emotional 。甚至那教會用言語極力「敗壞離開者的信仰」(鬧她/他背道、會下地獄、被魔鬼迷惑……)。

如果讀者是初初加入,發現這些特徵,那麼要更加仔細看,如果情況不妙,快快離開,否則留下會令自己迷失、並且破壞自己和家人的關係。長久在這類教會聚會的人,慢慢的就對現實產生了偏差、扭曲的看法(distorted perspective of reality)。他們開始會對教會外的人不再信任,但是卻活在壓力、惶恐、和憂鬱裡面。這些對心理的傷害,可以在那信徒離開那教會後持續很久。部份信徒甚至產生自毀和傷害家人的傾向。

部份這些教會有廣泛的網絡,在不同地方有他們的分支。有些是從主流正統教會脫離而自立門戶。這些自立門戶的教派偶爾會被原來所屬於的宗派所否定、劃清界線,但是有些就用魚目混珠的方法,改名、改聚會點去隱藏自己身份。貓貓補充,這些教會往往也有神秘色彩,信徒對外不會透露教會裡面的聚會情況、信徒相交細節,或者教會的歷史。這些方法令一些不知就裡的未信者無從辨認他們是否有問題。

上文列出八點關於極端的基督教教會的特徵,本文詳細說明每一點:

極權、權威、家長式的領袖,Control Style Leadership

任何 abusive church,必定有這個重要特徵:有一個權威、極權、操縱人的最高領導(control style leadership)。這些領導非常教條主義 dogmatic、很自信、驕傲 arrogant、妄自尊大,而且是所有信徒的屬靈領袖、家長。他聲稱自己在靈性上面比所有信徒優越、更加和上帝親近、更加知道上帝的旨意,說自己有上帝特別的「恩膏」,對聖經他有別人無法得到的、特殊、來自上帝的「亮光」,他甚至說他領受到從神而來特別的啟示和旨意。因此,這位領導人(在很多情況下是教會創立人)所說的一切是不可以被挑戰的、不容人質疑的,他的判斷是終決而不可推翻的。

這些信徒如果是對領導人(教會的頭頭)的說話表示懷疑、置疑,根本等同是懷疑、置疑上帝本身。雖然這類教會的領導人從來不會明明說出這個立場,甚至為了表現他和信徒是平等,要人稱他為「弟兄、姊妹」,但是他們對待懷疑、置疑者的方法,就間接發出這個信息:不要懷疑、置疑我,否則我和其他信徒會給顏色你看。

同時,這類教會領導人會替信徒個人生活作出決定,替他們「楂主意」,同時他不容許信徒獨立思考,令信徒慢慢的失去自己的主見,完全依賴他。

貓貓按:很諷刺地,這些教會喜歡指責天主教的「教皇無誤論」,當然他們很大程度是歪曲了「教皇無誤論」,但是他們同時在實際教會體制裡面卻實行另外一種「無誤論」,換了的不過是另外一個主角,用的是屬靈的包裝。還有,領袖為了防止不利他的信息、資訊流入影響信徒,會禁止信徒讀其他書籍,而只准讀他寫的書(現在可能有聲帶、VCD……),解釋聖經的參考,也必須以他批准的為準(通常是他寫或者他教會出的書)。還有,部份聖經的解釋不是斷章取意,就是隨便的「炒埋一碟」,目的是去證明自己的教義。這些教會信仰也很「非歷史化」(ahistorical),或者對于教會歷史、神學的了解認識很片面。「靈意」解經、「亮光」、「神今日通過這段聖經對我說話」等是他們解釋聖經的樣子。

用不同手法玩弄人(manipulative),令信徒完全服從

Abusive Church常常用各樣手法播弄、玩弄信徒的感情和心靈需要、弱點。播弄、玩弄信徒是用各種外來的壓力、方法令信徒就範,按領袖的意思行,而不會反抗。播弄、玩弄信徒的目的就是要信徒對領導絕對服從,不存異心。他們用的手法很多:令信徒有罪惡感、群眾壓力 peer pressure(例如不聽話的信徒被杯葛、其他人不睬他、用說話群起責備)、羞辱、威脅他們上帝會施行懲罰。另外一種手法是「牧養」 shepherding tatic,在香港普遍叫「師傅」。方法是要求信徒必須完全向一個比他資歷深的長者(師傅)交代他的一切,完全交心,完全向師傅負責。信徒必須毫無保留的把自己內心的想法、感受、將來自己的計劃、不敢向其他人啟齒的隱私完全向師傅「坦白交代」。但是這些毫無保留的「交心」、「剖白」的資料,師傅不是像社工、輔導者用來幫助他,而是用來脅迫、操縱他。

另外一種手段就是把信徒和教會外的人隔離,「斷六親」,使他不可以接觸家人、以前的朋友。

但是,真正的基督教領袖如此的:真正的好牧人耶穌會愛祂的羊、不會威脅、羞辱他們,並且領他們平安,甚至為羊捨命。

貓貓按:最初信徒可能會聽信他們說家人朋友必定反對他返教會、這個是聖經「預言」的逼迫,是出自魔鬼的,以至信徒自己會抗拒和家人朋友接觸。另外一些方法是信徒在入教時被要求發誓,和家人、以前朋友脫離,如果再接觸就是背叛、被上帝懲罰,結果因為發過誓,信徒會害怕而不敢接觸家人朋友。他們自我形象也很低落,因為教會長期要他們做各樣的事情表示忠心耿耿和「愛教會」,有時做的不夠就被責備。

非常嚴謹、殭化的教條去規管信徒的生活細節 rigid, legalistic lifestyle involving numerous requirements and minute details for daily life

第三個 abusive church的特徵是,他們非常教條主義,思想殭化。這些是因為極權領導而引起的後果:因為領導要求信徒絕對服從而毫無異心。對教會的服從忠心、對領導的服從是比對上帝順服、對家庭忠誠更加重要。

普遍是信徒會被要求參加密集的「查經班」、「門徒訓練」、同「師傅交代」,各種聚會,一星期聚會六到七天,時間長。信徒是被迫傳福音。雖然基督徒的使命確實是宣揚主道,但是在這些教會,這個是一個「交數」的責任,信徒有一個 quota 要達到,甚至要填寫 time card,記錄他們用多少時間、向多少人傳福音。信徒不可以自己決定每天做什麼,教會已經編排了他們每日的時間表,把信徒一天時間用盡去做教會的事情,做到筋疲力盡。美國有案例,信徒要早晨五時開始做,直到每天午夜,一星期起碼五天。

部份信徒更加要辭去原來的工作、全職投入。因為實在很密集、很沉重﹗

這種長期折磨,疲勞轟炸,令信徒慢慢迷失自己,變成像機械人一樣。很多例子顯示,這種巨大的壓力會令信徒精神崩潰、墮入極度抑鬱裡面。

耶穌不是說:「他們把難擔的重擔捆起來,擱在人的肩上,但自己一個指頭也不肯動。」[太 23:4] 而耶穌對跟從祂的人說:「凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。我心裡柔和謙卑,你們當負我的軛,學我的樣式,這樣,你們心裡就必得享安息。因為我的軛是容易的,我的擔子是輕省的。」[太 11:28-太 11:30]

貓貓按:信徒不是被建立(enpowered),而是一步一步被拆毀,喪失自己的自主、獨立人格,感情思想都倚靠了這個群體,沒有這個群體他/她就不知所措、失去安全感、害怕。他心裡面除了自己滿是罪惡感外,也可能把內心的罪惡感通過偏激的言論轉移,例如部份在新聞組遇見的這類信徒思想偏激、對人充滿不信任。這些重擔一方面使他們筋疲力盡,又因為他們常常覺得自己做得不夠,會有很大自卑,但是他們又以為自己是「真信徒」,就在這兩個極端裡面「扯到橫晒」。而且教會逼他們長時間做這些事情,也令他們沒有時間去看其他資料、和其他人交往,慢慢使他們和家人、原來的朋友疏遠。

這些教會成日轉名

貓貓註,香港的情況是,部份些教會從來沒有固定聚會地點。「香港神的教會」在六十年代創立,但是十多廿年都沒有固定聚會地點,或者聚會地點常常改。一般教會,就算是新成立,也會儘快固定聚會地點,並且計劃購買長久堂址的。

這個也是 abusive church ,極端教會的特點。當這些教會的事情被發現,例如報紙報道,他們就改名、改聚會地點逃避。或者也可能是令信徒的家人朋友找不到他們。

常常指其他教會是已經「背道」、「不合神心意」,只有他們一間教會是真正教會 denouncing all other churches

這些教會的領導和信徒自視自己比其他教會信徒優越,更加合神心意。他們相信他們是地上唯一真教會,只有他們擁有真理、擁有絕對性正確的教義,其他教會已經「敗壞」、「背道」、「不合神心意」。因此,他們絕對不會和其他教會交往聯繫,更加不會有任何所謂「主內的團契」(fellowship with other Chritians)。他們會認為自己是「主基督的精兵」、「末日唯一忠心的」。這些信徒很驕傲自滿,因為他們像他們的領導一樣,相信自己比其他教會的信徒靈性、屬靈上優越、更加和上帝親近、更加知道上帝的旨意。 Dr. Ron Enroth 在《Churches That Abuses》裡面引述一個脫離極端教會的信徒說:「雖然我們(abusive church 信徒)從來不宣之於口,但是我們心裡暗暗、且真心相信只有我們的教會是絕對最好的,其他基督徒不過是出來吃喝玩樂」。但是,聖經指出,真正聯繫教會的,是我們共同的神、共同的基督信仰:[弗 4:3-弗 4:6] 用和平彼此聯絡,竭力保守聖靈所賜合而為一的心。身體只有一個,聖靈只有一個,正如你們蒙召,同有一個指望。一主,一信,一洗,一 神,就是眾人的父,超乎眾人之上,貫乎眾人之中,也住在眾人之內。

基督教會是以同一上帝、基督、聖靈聯合,有同一的三一神信仰、信基督復活、聖經權威、基督神性、靠恩得救等等。如果一間教會自以為自己是比其他教會優越、不和其他教會交往,那麼他們背後的動機和理念,其實是使教會分化的驕傲自滿。

貓貓按:我的主日學生分享過我知,她是讀中大的,和其他基督徒同學很親密,她也發現同學裡面有一個是返「香港X的教會」。一次一個同學患重病,大家基督徒發起為那同學祈禱,就是唯獨那個返「香港X的教會」的同學不肯和他們一起禱告。

這些教會有「迫害妄想」、「殉道情結」(persecution complex and matyrdom complex)

由于以上原因,很自然地 abusive church 極端教會有這第六個特徵。因為他們極度相信自己的優越性、在神面前是獨特、是神特別揀選的,所以認定教會外一切的人對他們不懷好意、認定他們必定會受「迫害」。這種思維形成一個惡性循環,外間批評他們越烈,他們越相信自己確實是神特別揀選的才受迫害,就更加極端。外界的批評、傳播媒體的報道泄露,他們都視為出自魔鬼的逼迫。可是,那些 abusive church/極端教會口裡面所謂的逼迫,和主耶穌、早期教會的逼迫大大不同。主耶穌、早期教會受逼迫,是因為他們宣揚基督的真理。今日,很多宣揚基督的真理的教會沒有受逼迫,相反往往聲稱自己受逼迫的就是這些極端教會,原因很簡單,因為他們的所作所為是正常社會感到不可以接受的。不論批判是來自其他基督教會或者非信徒,這些 abusive church 極端教會一概說是出自魔鬼,雖然很多對他們的批評其實是根據聖經裡面教導、指出他們的偏差。正常教會信徒想向他們作見證、告訴他們福音真理,這些極端教會也會敵視之、當那些是逼迫。面對他們的抗拒,信徒必須指出,他是用這些極端教會同樣接受的聖經、神的話語和他們說理,因為逼迫者是不會用神的話語和他們說理的。

這些教會傳教對象是年輕人,約十八到二十五歲的年齡組別

這些極端教會往往以年輕人,約十八到二十五歲左右、中產階級、有一定教育程度、滿有理想但是在基督教信仰認識不深的人。這些年紀的人極度渴望尋找生命目標、方向和理想,或者期望找到「真正的基督教會」。他們需要愛、接納、別人的肯定和關懷。大家一定發現,這類極端教會的「強項」就是對新來賓非常熱心、關懷、熱情。而往往這些教會的領袖好像父母一樣對待這些年輕人。年輕人在感情上需要得到滿足,就很容易把戒備的心放鬆,不去冷靜分析下這些教會是否有問題。

信徒如果要離開,就被教會指控,過程令他身心、情緒、心理都受很大痛苦,traumatic and painful exit process

信徒如果想離開,不但被阻攔,而且教會其他人會令他身心、情緒、心理都受很大痛苦、困擾。信徒很多時候是很害怕離開,因為教會會對他們羞辱、威嚇、說他們必定遭神懲罰、說他們是背叛會下地獄等等、又施行群眾壓力。有些離開了的還被滋擾、跟蹤,令他們精神大受困擾。如果離開,教會的信徒會公開恥笑、羞辱想離開的人,而所有其他信徒會杯葛他、不理睬他、和他斷絕一切關係。因為這些手段,很多決心離開這些極端教會 abusive church的人,在洗腦和羞辱下,會誤以為離開那教會也等于他離開神。由于離開的信徒之前和那教會信徒有很深入的感情關係,而之前又斷了六親、家人,甚至為返這教會和家人反面,所以當他離開遭遇「家法侍候」,被那教會信徒完全杯葛,這些離開的信徒往往很孤寂、痛苦、害怕。其中一個過來人說,當他決定不理會教會領導阻止而離開,那個教會的領導馬上定他罪、把一切罪都歸在他身上,要他承受極大的罪惡感。甚至那領導還說他會不得救,目的是連他的信心也要敗壞。

如果有家人入了這些教派

(一)為她/他祈禱

(二)對這些信徒作見證、說理會很困難,因為他們極力抗拒,甚至會以惡言對待你。

(三)他們的領袖也可能指示他們不要和教外人談話,除非有他們的師傅陪同(往往擅長辯論、對外人用羞辱、侮辱的方法,intimidate)

(四)所以在(一)祈禱裡面,要希望有機會跟她/他單獨談(最好你有教會信仰根基深、經驗好的傳道一起)

(五)面對他/她,要用愛,使他們不抗拒

(六)小心發掘他們在聖經解釋、教義偏差和矛盾、前後不一致的地方,指出來。往往這樣會令他思想。

(七)在各處找尋他/她返的極端教會的資料,令他/她對那教會生疑,並自己主動尋求資料,要他/她嘗試自己用聖經去測試那教會是否合乎真理,鼓勵他/她發問,甚至向他/她教會的領袖問。如果那些領袖表現得猶疑、迴避問題,那麼那教會領袖就……

耶穌說,教會是一個使得人得釋放的地方。

貓貓按:這些極端教會令我憤怒,不是因為他們的人偏激,而是他們利用人內心的脆弱、心靈的需要、對理想的渴望、感情的需要去達到控制人、玩弄人、壓迫人的目的,把人的感情、精神傷害,並且假基督的名做這些事情。

附加資料

*極端教派信徒通常者非常熱心傳揚他們的「福音」。 但是到其他教會信徒和他們談道,就會敵視之。

*極端教派信徒是盲目被洗腦的一群。

*極端教派信徒根本不重視聖經,只重視自己教主的教導。

*極端教派信徒曲解聖經。

*極端教派信徒是非理性的一群,根本不願面對真理。

*極端教派信徒間的關係非常緊密,常強調以愛相繫。

*極端教派傳揚方式非常厲害,正以驚人的迅度增長。 會到其他教會「拉羊」proselytizing,自稱基督徒,但是對自己是屬於什麼教會就吞吞吐吐、不願意透露。

*極端教派傳播重點在年青人,或那些對傳統教會不滿的人。

*極端教派的領導人多言行不一,如貪財、好色…等。

*極端教派信仰上面和主流傳統教派幾乎沒有分別。他們強調自己同是基督信仰,外界無法分辨他們。

*他們強週自己的「非主流」位置,並有意無意間強調神的心意是「小群」的人才能獲得。所以,經常提出自己與主流教會的分別。認為神特別揀選他們,因此他們有很高優越感。

*「極端教派」和「異端」在行為、教導模式和對主流教會的態度方面,是非常相近,不同之處,是「極端教派」與主流教會同樣強調「因信稱義」和基督的地位、接受三一論、聖經權威,只是在某一教義上頗為偏重,甚至把那意念凌駕於其他信念之上。(極

端教派可能在一段長時間之後,變為主流教會中的一部份。最明顯的例子是「浸信會」──在宗教改革時期,本是極端教派,後來才漸被視為「保守派」。)

*「極端教派」對于教會歷史認識有偏差,認為約教會自使徒時代後已有所偏差,甚或離經叛道,完全違背了聖經的教訓。只有到了他們的出現,才再因著神的「特別啟示」,使「新約教會」得以延續。

*「極端教派」認為「真」教會只有一個,即他們自己,所以強調自己的超然地位。認為宗派是邪惡的表現,或出於魔鬼的作為,常以「巴比倫」或「大淫婦」來比對主流宗派教會。

*「極端教派」信徒追求「敬虔」(「狂熱」)或極端的信仰體驗。他們並沒有己一般主流教會信徒的犯罪感(覺得自己不足,或是虧欠了神、沒有靈修……等等),反而認定自己比那些信徒更為敬虔,順服於神的旨意之下,更明白祂的心懷意念。不過,另一方面,他們亦有另一種不肯定感(不肯定自己是否已有足夠「成就」來肯定得救)和懼怕(自己的「信心」不足)。這些不肯定和懼怕,在他們面對中年危機時,倍為加劇,所以,不少異端的信徒在中年以後多轉離教派或變為較不活躍的份子。他們強調信心,不過更強調信心的行為表現,往往見諸他們極端的要求。通常他們對信者的表現有特定規範和要求。這些要求是明確而具體,而非空泛的原則理論。

*「極端教派」信徒有強烈的受逼迫感 、殉道情結,既為主流教會所不容,亦受攻擊,所以多有強烈的受壓感,因此信徒間關係更為緊密、同時也特別加更多繁重的訓練和操練給信徒。他們早有被逼迫的意識,任何指出他們錯處或弱點的言行都會被視為刻意中傷。

*「極端教派」信徒深受教派內的「套裝理論」影響,認定自己全然合理,而基督徒或其他人卻是陷於謬誤的,因而多好辯(單向式的辯論)。簡而言之,他們樂於指出別人的過錯,卻對別人對自己的指斥完然抗拒或否定。

包艾克教授指出:

「有些人認為與這些極端教派信徒接觸時,最重要的是解決其理智概念上的錯誤,可是當我們與他們有個人化的接觸時,就會明白,其他各樣因素(如心理和社交)對他的影響,遠較理念大得多。」

這些因素包括:

(一)他們在其教會群體中,有溫暖、親密的關係。 若要脫離,不單是轉換信念,更是改換朋友和整個人的社交圈子。若不顧及這層面,一個信徒永不能走出那個傷害他的圈子。

(二)他們能在那個群體中得到足夠的安全感,因為他們不單得到獨特的地位,亦能同時得著簡明的答案(神的旨意),使他們的困難得到立時的解決。而主流教會的協助通常是不確定的理念。 人害怕不肯定、不確定,要求「即時答案」。

要以「愛」和關注來與他們相交,亦要在理智和聖經的層面上,使他們服於聖經權威之下,也要喚醒他們的理智。